Relationships

Last week, three of my friends' relationships ended. I have no idea what happened this weekend but by today they were all back together again. I really have no idea what happened with one of them. It caught me completely by surprise when they broke up, because it seemed to have happened out of nowhere. Another one, I sort of saw coming but I still did not expect it to happen until later. The last one I knew was going to happen and that it was going to happen soon. The first relationship I really have no idea what happened but it was one where I was actually friends with both of them, mostly one half, but nonetheless both. I don't really know enough about their relationship to give an opinion or to even ask them what happened so I will stay out of it. The second one, was with a friend that I am actually a lot closer with. I know why it happened and I know enough to talk about it. They have been together for a long time. The second longest couple in my class, actually. One half is completely comfortable with herself and doesn't need reassuring for a lot of things involving confidence. The other half, the one I'm friends with, is not exactly like that. He is slightly insecure but he hides from it by separating himself from his emotions. He needs reassurance and attention, which I totally understand. They are a perfect fit for each other. They are everything the other isn't. Their problems started because he would not believe her when she said she loved him and even though she constantly told him, he was totally skeptical. Then, because his ego or something got to him, he started to joke about that. How she didn't love him and that they were doomed to end. In the end, she got tired of it and decided to just end it. I think that this was pretty healthy for them. They got back together because they realized that they really liked each other and their fight was not even relevant. The last one I definitely knew it was going to happen. My friend had been talking about it before any of it happened. How she didn't exactly feel the way she did in the beginning and that she realized that she was only with him because, though she doesn't love him, she still cares for him and wants him to be well. The point is that she wanted things to end because she wasn't feeling it anymore. She was always scared to because she didn't want him to feel sad or for him to feel like he was not good enough for her. I personally admire her for this because she can own up to the fact that it isn't love but she also takes him into consideration. She broke up with him and she looked free, only after my other friend and I and several other people convinced her that it was the right thing for her. They got back together because he ended up persuading her to stay with him. I personally feel like he took advantage of how unbelievably kind she is to make her stay with him. I can tell that she isn't completely happy with their situation again. I don't want to tell her what to do because it's her life and she has to take into consideration all the factors that are important to her. But the point of me telling anyone any of this is to give whatever weak relationship advice I can offer. When you are in a relationship with someone you love, you have to overlook the little problems and get over yourselves to make it work. You also have to put aside your and your partner's problems and not let them get in the way. If it's love, it is definitely worth fighting for. But if you are in a relationship where the spark that used to be there has burned out or you are just plain unhappy beyond repair, you need to get out of it. It's not healthy for you and you should be the most important thing in your life, as it is yours and not anyone else's. It doesn't matter if the other person will be sad. That's not your fault. It is not your job to take care of them. Worry about your happiness before you go and break yourself to make other people happy. That is my advice for anyone in a relationship this upcoming Valentines' Day. I hope you spend it happily with your significant other or by yourself and that you don't get sick with all the cheese and chocolate that will be around.

Word of the Day: Counterfeit -- (adj) made in exact imitation of something valuable or important with the intention to deceive or defraud. Synonyms: fake, false, imitation of. Ex: A Chinese male DVD street seller was arrested as he attempted to sell counterfeit DVDs to passers by.

Song of the Day: CheaterCheaterBestFriendEater by Never Shout Never